conflict resolution
03-07-2007, 10:29 AM
You bring up a good point Moe, because part of the issue is discerning what conflicts NEED resolution, and what ones don't. With certain matters, and certain people....there is no profit in pursuing resolution.
But with friends, or brothers in the church, there often isn't even enough contact/effort made in conflicts to "agree to disagree". There is often just distance and a broken relationship that stays that way. And I think part of that is insecurity and fear, and another part is not ever having practiced going head-to-head with someone with both coming out alive at the end. We think it will end horribly, so often we don't even try.
Of course, I can think of a couple of instances in my own history where I went head-to-head with someone and it did end up as bad or worse than before we tried to work it out. That sort of thing makes you not want to try. And yet, we are compelled by our love and devotion to the Lord to be vessels of reconciliation. And as Phred said, we have the directives of Matthew 18. We just don't come with the knowledge of how to do that built into us.
But with friends, or brothers in the church, there often isn't even enough contact/effort made in conflicts to "agree to disagree". There is often just distance and a broken relationship that stays that way. And I think part of that is insecurity and fear, and another part is not ever having practiced going head-to-head with someone with both coming out alive at the end. We think it will end horribly, so often we don't even try.
Of course, I can think of a couple of instances in my own history where I went head-to-head with someone and it did end up as bad or worse than before we tried to work it out. That sort of thing makes you not want to try. And yet, we are compelled by our love and devotion to the Lord to be vessels of reconciliation. And as Phred said, we have the directives of Matthew 18. We just don't come with the knowledge of how to do that built into us.
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